EVERY HAIR STYLE HAS IT'S STORY.....

BEING A HAIR STYLIST I MEET SO MANY PEOPLE FROM ALL WALKS OF LIFE, DIFFERENT STORIES, CONSTANTLY CHANGING LANES... WE ARE WOMAN, PREDOMINANTLY HISPANIC WOMEN, SO WE SPEAK OF LOVE, MOSTLY ... SOME OF THESE STORIES/REAL LIFE STORIES ARE SAD, UPSETTING, SOME I CAN RELATE TOO, SOME I CAN FEEL THEIR ANGER AND PAIN, MOST OF THE TIME AS THEY ARE SITTING IN MY CHAIR WE LAUGH, CRACKING JOKES ON THESE DUDES WE ALLOW IN OUR LIVES. WELL, MAN I HAVE MET SO MANY STRONG, INDEPENDENT BEAUTIFUL LADIES, AND THEIR STORIES I ALWAYS REMEMBER AND LOVE WHETHER GOOD OR BAD.

SITTING IN MY "STYLE-SEAT", WE WONT TRASH TALK SOME OTHER BITCH, WONT INDULGE IN GOSSIP, BECAUSE FIRST OF ALL THAT'S NOT WHAT MY TIME IS WORTH! ID RATHER KNOW YOUR "STORY", HEAR YOUR GOALS!

WELL, YESTERDAY I MET TWO SISTER-IN LAWS, THAT WERE REFERRED BY THERE OTHER SISTER IN LAW, IN WHICH IS MY RETURNING AND FAITHFUL CLIENT! IT ALL STARTED WITH OUR REFERRAL PROGRAM, IF YOU REFER THREE OR MORE PEOPLE THAT BOOK AND FOLLOW THROUGH WITH THERE APPOINTMENT, YOU IN TURN RECEIVE A COMPLIMENTARY CUT, OR HALF OFF YOUR NEXT COLOR SERVICE! THAT'S PRETTY SAVVY, RIGHT?

ANYWHO, BACK TO THESE SISTER IN-LAWS I MET AND HAD THE PLEASURE OF DOING BOTH THERE HAIR WHILE THEY ENJOYED A LAIES DAY OUT AT STUDIO 410.

WHILE STARTING ON ONE, SHE QUICKLY LAUGHED WITH THE OTHER IN A NERVOUS PANIC. FIRSTLY, BECAUSE SHE HAD A REALLY SHITTY HAIR JOB BEFORE, WITH LITERALLY CHUNKS OF HAIR BROKEN OFF DUE TO OVER PROCESSING. SECONDLY, FROM HER HUSBAND CALLING HER THAT SHE DIDNT GIVE HIM THE TRANSPONDER CAR KEY...HE GOT PRETTY FAR TIL THE CAR SHUT DOWN AUTOMATICALLY. HE GOT A RIDE BACK TO THE SHOP CAME IN FRUSTRATED. WHEN I SAID HELLO, ONE TRACK MINDED AS MOST MEN ARE, IGNORED ME AND QUICKLY GOT THE KEY FROM HIS WIFE AS SHE SAT IN MY CHAIR.

AS SOON AS HE LEFT, WE LAUGHED,BECAUSE WE HAVE ALL BEEN THERE! AS WOMAN, WE ARE SO USED TO MULTI-TASKING, SOMETIMES OR ALLOT OF TIMES WE MISPLACE OUR KEYS...

OUR CONVERSATION WENT ON TO HOW THEY MET, AND IT WAS AN INTERESTING STORY. BUT WHAT IMPACTED ME, WAS THEM HAVING A BLENDED FAMILY- AS WHAT IS SO COMMON NOW DAYS. HE HAD 3 CHILDREN PREVIOUSLY, AND THEY NOW HAVE TWO TOGETHER. I SAID SHOCKINGLY, "WOW YOU GUYS HAVE FIVE KIDS, WOW!!!"

NOW, TAG TEAMING THESE TWO LADIES, I BEGAN ON THE OTHER SISTER IN LAW. SHE BEGAN HER STORY OF HOW SHE MET HER HUBBY, AND HOW HE HAD TWO KIDS FROM HIS PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP AS WELL, AND THEY HAVE THREE KIDS TOGETHER... AGAIN, SHOCKINGLY, I WAS LIKE "WOW...THAT IS AWESOME OF YOU TWO LADIES"... I MEAN FIVE KIDS IS NOT ONLY FINANCIALLY, A LOT, BUT EMOTIONALLY AS WELL!

A COUPLE OF YEARS BACK, I REMEMBER READING ABOUT HOW JADA PINKETT SMITH REFERS TO WILL SMITH'S SON FROM HIS PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP AS THEIR "BONUS KID"...

MEN OR WOMAN HAVING LOVING SOMEONE SO MUCH, YOU HAVE TO LOVE THE WHOLE PACKAGE, KIDS ARE NOT A BURDEN AS MOST WOULD QUICKLY AND NEGATIVELY ASSUME.

CHILDREN ARE GIFTS. TO HEAR THESE WOMEN SHARE THEIR STORIES OF ACCEPTING THE ENTIRE PACKAGE, AND ADDING TO IT-- MY FIRST INSTINCTS WEREN'T, "MAN YALL ARE CRAZY!"
MAYBE BECAUSE I AM A SINGLE MOTHER OF THREE WONDERFUL BOYS... BUT MOSTLY OF THE LOVE FACTOR!

THESE WOMEN LOVE THOSE MEN THAT THEY WELCOMED IT!

NEITHER OF THESE TWO LADIES EVER SPOKE NEGATIVELY OF IT AS WELL, INFACT BOTH HAD SMILES ON THERE FACES THE ENTIRE TIME! THEIR HUSBANDS STARTED THEIR OWN GRANITE BUSINESS, AND IT SEEMS TO BE VERY SUCCESSFUL PROVIDING FOR THEIR FAMILIES. I'M SURE THAT MAKES IT ALL SO MUCH EASIER.
BUT THAT'S NOT THE POINT, THE POINT IS LOVE!

I STILL BELIEVE IN LOVE, I STILL BELIEVE IN HOPE, AND THE TOTAL PACKAGE!

MEETING THESE TWO LADIES GAVE ME PEACE, THAT IN THE PROPER TIME IT WILL HAPPEN... I JUST WANT TO ENCOURAGE YOU LADIES THAT ARE SINGLE PARENTS, OR MAY BE DATING SOMEONE WITH A "BONUS KID", TO REMAIN POSITIVE. THINK SMART, BE PROACTIVE, AND ALWAYS CONTINUE TO LOVE!

AND BY THE WAY, HERE IS ONE OF THE BEFORE AND AFTER OF ONE OF THE SISTER IN LAWS HAIR FROM HELL TO HEAVEN!